A man who "got around", committed to no one, and then... Amy came along and did THIS...
Hey it's Renee here! You're going to love this story...
Recently, a well known boxer family friend of mine, Dayne, called me and told me he was ready to pick out a ring for his girlfriend whom he had been with for 8 months.
Because he was always a well known trouble maker and womaniser, when he called me and told me, I almost
accidentally spat out the green tea I was drinking, and I froze in surprise.
I've known this guy since we were born, practically. I have video footage of him and I jumping in a jumping castle, he is wearing little blue overalls, and (giggles) carrying his favorite teddy tucked in to his overalls. He was about 3.
I always make fun of him about this. He hates it. Anyway, after he called, I had to see him. I hadn't seen him in roughly a year.
So the next week, we met up to share a burger and chips at a well known place here in Australia. I walked in, saw him sitting at the table nearest to the entrance and walked up and gave him a hug.
I just stopped in my
tracks, I think it took me about a whole minute to finally sit down and stop staring at his eyes. I must have looked so shocked, like a stunned mullet.
He was clearly different. His eyes had this sparkle in them and he seemed drunk.
I asked him if he was hungover, after all, I wouldn't have been surprised if he had said he was. He said no.
Then this smile spread across his whole face and he said sit down, do you want a drink?
I'm like, "No, you have to tell me the reason behind this smile on your face!"
He smirked.
He said, "I told you, I want to buy my girlfriend, Amy an engagement ring. I need your help".
I said, "Fine! But c'mon, what's happened? I've NEVER seen you like this before!"
He laughed and said, "Yeah, that's what everyone is saying to me. They think I'm pulling a prank when I say I want to buy Amy an engagement ring."
Just then he looked away, called the waiter over and ordered a burger with the lot and a salad on the side. My friend Dayne is a big guy. 6 foot 2 inches, big arms, 6 pack, good looking and very masculine. Just
think somewhere in between Sean Connery and Vin Diesel.
And my goodness, has he been around! Picking up girls every weekend. He'd have sex with everything from just one woman, to threesomes and foursomes. He used to have a "girlfriend" who was semi steady.
He told her at the start of their little 'relationship' "You're a Monday to Thursday girl." She stuck around with him for a while, until, I imagine, she got sick of waiting for him.
Years ago, we use to argue about this promiscuity. I wanted him to find a relationship that was "fulfilling", but he just kept telling me no girl was worth it.
So we agreed to disagree.
I still loved him no matter what. He's like a brother to me, and if ever anyone was in my way, he'd offer to bash them up.
I once said to him: "You need to find a woman with the whole package. A woman that challenges you, but that also makes you want to take care of her for life." He'd always tell me in response "Yeah, but where the hell do I find a girl like that?!"
I told him to not settle for low quality women. He listened, but I don't think he understood what I meant.
So as we were waiting for our burger, I looked him in the eyes and said, "What has happened! Who is she?"
He paused for what seemed like a minute, with this dreamy look in his eyes. I had to convince myself he wasn't drunk or hungover.
He finally said: "Renee, no one compares. Every other woman I've dated looked like a piece of s*** on my shoes compared to her."
"All I can think about is how to put a smile on her face."
"I hate to say it, but I'm in trouble. I can't even bear to look at another woman.
On Saturday I was out with my mates,
watching my good friend in his first fight and after the fight was over, girls were practically shoving their breasts in my face and trying to grind on me, and I just wanted to throw up.
My best mate punched me one and told me to wake the hell up. And what was wrong with me."
I remember my mouth opening so wide in surprise, hearing him say this.
Here was my good friend and brother Dayne, a man who had slept with (I'm not kidding), over 200 women, telling me he couldn't bear to even look at another woman.
Then he said, "I've got to find her the perfect ring, which
is where I need your advice."
I'm like "Sure, but not until you tell me how this happened!"
So I proceeded to ask him what was it. Was it that his girlfriend Amy waited to sleep with him?
Was she just particularly good looking or beautiful or what?
He said "Nope. We slept together I think within 2 weeks of meeting. And she's even a bit chubby."
I said: "So, what makes you suddenly want to marry THIS woman?"
He said, "You know, I've had this conversation with myself before.
I never thought I'd ever want to marry any woman. The thought of it used to make me think I wouldn't be able to be a man anymore. But now, all I want to do is marry Amy and take care of her!
Even fighting isn't that important anymore. I could literally never have another fight in my life, just for her."
All I could say in response at that point was 'Wow'. After all, this was coming from a full on womaniser. Women everywhere hated him.
So I said, well, I am incredibly happy for you! And then, we sat in silence for a while, and after our meal came and we started eating, I said: "There has to be something that makes
Amy different."
And he said "Yeah but I dunno what it is. I didn't even know I'd be interested in a woman like Amy. When I try to think about why I am so in love with her, I have no idea why."
Then he said, "But all I can think of is how she makes me feel."
So I said: "Are you sure you're not just gonna leave her in a few years and start sleeping around again?"
He looked at me, somewhat annoyed, and said; "No! Of course not! You know, every other girl I ever had a short term relationship with, or even just had sex with, would go out of her way to try to make me happy and do what I wanted. They would seem
to go back to their lives, but even if I couldn't see them, I just KNEW they were still hanging around. It's like they were WAITING for me or something.
And every other girl I ever had a relationship with, would know I was cheating on her, or know that I was not committed, but still hang around and try to get me to like, I dunno, LOVE them or something."
I nodded, and said I understood, because I saw women around me do this every single day. And so I kept pressing, I said "Ok, but what exactly makes Amy the one you want to be with forever?"
And he said: "I don't know. I've had prettier. But when I'm with her, I just want to look at her. Be with her.
There was something about every other girl who had been in my life that I just got totally bored with. We'd go out, and there would be girls hanging off me and I'd talk about how hot all these other girls were around them, and they didn't say anything or seem to have any fight in them, y'know. They'd act like they didn't mind.
They'd pretty much hang around in my life, as I said, I think, trying to get me to love them, and if I ever asked them how they were, they'd say: "Yeah yeah I'm great!" and I'd say something like: "Is everything ok?" And they'd say: "Yeah, everything's fine!" But the weird thing was, I knew that everything was fine, but it's like, they wouldn't let me in.
But with Amy, she's
completely real. The one time I stepped out of line with her, I didn't take her out on a date like I said I would, I didn't go pick her up for a movie one Saturday night. I was down about losing two fights in a row.
I had done this before to a ton of women, and they seemed fine with it, some of them just messaged me pestering me about when I was going to be there to pick them up, some of them turned up at the place and waited for me.
With others, I'd email them the next day apologising, and they'd be like that's cool. And I'd suggest another day, and they'd always say yes.
But the one time I did this with Amy, about 6 months ago when we first started dating, she actually came to my door, and said:
"We had a date. Why didn't you call me? What's going on? How did the fight go?"
So I said to Dayne, "Oh. Was she a bitch about it all?"
And he said: "Nah, but if she was, I wouldn't have minded."
I asked him why.
He said: "Because, she was standing up for herself. And, at the same time, for the first time, I felt like a girl I dated actually openly showed me that she had emotions, that I had hurt her. It's like, I dunno, she didn't pretend everything was ok. She was ok with being a woman, y'know?"
I nodded, and smiled
at him, with tears in my eyes. Then he told me all he wanted to do was take care of her for the rest of his life.
I looked at him and smiled again. Then he said something very interesting.
He said: "And I guess, that was the first time I'd ever dated a girl that actually cared about ME. She asked about my fight. She showed up at my door. She wasn't just there to try to fake her way to a relationship with me. And she cared enough to be open and real to me about how she really felt about me having stood her up. She didn't do what all the others did."
I asked him: "What did all the others do?"
He answered,
"They'd pretty much just shut up and pretend everything was ok, and then go bitch about me to all her girlfriends and my friends behind my back, about how much of a dumb prick I was, and then I'd find out about it a week later, and all the women would start to hate me. None of the others really felt to me like they were women. They were more like guy friends, sometimes dressed as women."
He looked down, and as he was eating, he paused, with a look of satisfaction and thoughtfulness in his eyes.
I was deep in thought myself, but eventually I said to him: "She was open to you." He looked at me, a bit confused at first.
He stopped chewing the food in his mouth.
Then he said: "Yes".
You see, this level of fearless openness in a woman is such a treasure. You may have heard me talk about "high value vulnerability" over and over, but it really works in the real world.
Men are magnetised to it - because they perceive great value in that energy. (And it's really your energy that emotionally attracts men in the first place!)
Getting a man's deeper commitment shouldn't be a difficult process. Just like pieces of a puzzle fitting together, once you show up with the right energy, then the commitment process is effortless and smooth.
We would love to share with you more about this idea of "High Value Vulnerability"... perhaps we will write more about it in the coming days.
Also, we’ve got something really special happening tomorrow.
If you want to learn more about the concept of "High Value Vulnerability" and the process of inspiring men to commit naturally and free of resistance, then stay tuned!
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